by The Center | Sep 6, 2011 | Blog
How do you loop someone who is very quiet? The short answer is “with sensitivity and care.” Looping (the loop of understanding) is seeking to understand the other and confirm that the other has, in fact, felt understood. That implicitly assumes that the other...
by The Center | Aug 4, 2011 | Blog
When faced with the challenge of looping someone who is aggressive, domineering, or blaming the other person, it can be very daunting. We particularly don’t want to loop the blame as blame. Our suggestion is that we reframe the blame in a way to hold the speaker...
by The Center | Jun 30, 2011 | Blog
When people speak, paying attention to the words they use to communicate is only a part of understanding what they are trying to express. Various studies have found that nonverbal cues comprise 80-93% of what is communicated. So when we loop, if we loop only the...
by The Center | May 28, 2011 | Blog
One of loopers’ biggest challenges is to loop people whose tendency is to speak for long periods of time. Our normal tendency when people do this is to be polite and not interrupt them. We think that this is not so helpful to the speaker or the looper since the...
by The Center | Mar 2, 2011 | Blog
Developing understanding systematically, authentically, and compassionately is core to our approach to mediation and the loop of understanding is central to that effort. Looping is a technique that helps focus the dialogue and develop understanding throughout the...
