Our Leadership Team

BOARD PRESIDENT

Hansa Patel is an attorney, mediator, and teacher.  As an attorney, Hansa zealously advocated for abused and neglected children or defended their parents’ rights in the San Francisco juvenile dependency court for fourteen years.  Hansa is passionate about serving the underprivileged community.  Feeling depleted by the court system, Hansa explored new ways to empower her clients to resolve conflict.  Mediation empowers Hansa’s clients to choose how they want to engage with conflict, co-create resolutions, and even transform a relationship.  In the USA, Canada, and Africa, Hansa teaches mediation, including integrating mindfulness skills into conflict resolution.  Hansa wants her clients to have the same tools she cultivates in her children:  a mindful approach to resolving challenges in life.

EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR

James Dykeman is a seasoned operations manager and leadership development professional passionate about supporting nonprofit organizations, emphasizing strategic communications, community outreach, and partnership development. His previous work with nonprofit organizations focused on serving homeless and at-risk populations, raising awareness of international issues, and immigrant and refugee advocacy. James graduated with the highest distinction from the University of Iowa with a BA in Journalism and Mass Communications and a certificate in Nonprofit Leadership and Philanthropy. He also serves as the Development and Communications Director for the Iowa City Foreign Relations Council and often volunteers to support small nonprofit organizations in telling their most important stories to increase stakeholder engagement. 

TREASURER

Juliana Yanez is a family law attorney in Silicon Valley and San Francisco. Juliana started her legal career as a business litigator. Juliana transitioned into family law in order to help families navigate difficult transitions. Juliana also served as a registered Indiana domestic relations mediator where she mediated child custody disputes. She is also an active member of SF La Raza lawyers and also serves on the board of La Raza Centro Legal, San Francisco.

SECRETARY

Antoinette Delruelle has been a mediator since 2009 and an attorney since 1994. Before starting the Mediation Project in 2013, she was a senior attorney in NYLAG’s Matrimonial & Family Law Unit of which she also served as director from 2001 to 2004.  She has taught mediation to legal services attorneys and court staff professionals and has participated as a teaching assistant at mediation trainings of the Center for Understanding in Conflict.  She is has been a mediator for the New York City Family Court Mediation Program since 2013, on the rosters of the Kings and New York County Supreme Court Pilot Mediation Programs their inception.  She was the president of the Family and Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York from 2014 to 2016 and is currently on the board of the Center for Understanding in Conflict.  She is a member of the state-wide ADR Advisory Committee formed by Chief Judge DiFiore in April 2018 to give her recommendations on how to increase the use of ADR in the NYS court system.

BOARD MEMBER

Ivan Alter is a collaborative attorney and mediator with offices in Westchester County and New York City. Practicing law since 1994, Ivan previously had a career as a commercial and matrimonial litigator before discovering the understanding-based model at the CUC. Since then, Ivan has focused all of his professional energies on practicing, promoting, and teaching mediation and collaborative law. He is member of the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, the Family and Divorce Mediation Council, the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, and Northern Westchester Collaborative Divorce.

DIRECTOR

Catherine Conner is a mediator, collaborative attorney, a teacher at and a director on the board of the Center for Understanding in Conflict. Her practice focuses on family law alternate dispute resolution, including mediation, collaborative practice and private judging.  She co-authored Collaborative Family Law Practice Materials.  She was on the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals board of directors from 2008 through 2014 and was the President in 2013.

DIRECTOR

Katherine Eisold Miller is a Collaborative Lawyer and mediator with a practice located in Westchester County NY and New York City. Katherine is immediate past president of the Center for Understanding in Conflict, as well as the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals. Katherine is author of the New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce (2015) and co-Author of the #1 Amazon bestseller A Cup of Coffee with 10 of the Top Divorce Attorneys in the United States (2014).

INCOMING

BOARD MEMBER

Adam King holds a Bachelor’s degree in Political Science from SUNY Oswego and a Master’s degree In Political Science from Syracuse University, where he also completed an advanced certificate in conflict resolution. He received his law degree from the Syracuse University College of Law in May 2020, where he focused on corporate governance and compliance. Adam is a Compliance Auditor for Loretto, a non-profit eldercare organization in central New York. Adam’s commitment to promoting peace and understanding extends beyond his professional endeavors. He volunteers his time to support community initiatives to address social inequalities and encourage dialogue among diverse groups. His advocacy for inclusivity and collaboration has made a lasting impact on communities, both locally and globally. He serves as an Arbitrator for FINRA, the regulatory agency responsible for broker-dealer/consumer relations. He focuses his practice on community facilitation, ranging from intercultural dialogue exchange with college students globally to community dialogues regarding community and police interactions. In his recreational time, he enjoys hiking, running, reading, and spending time with his family.

INCOMING

BOARD MEMBER

Hayden Lilien is an attorney, mediator, and finance professional. She has spent close to 20 years running the finance, H.R., and operations departments of growing nonprofit organizations. She also has a private divorce mediation and coaching practice where she supports individuals, couples, and groups in navigating all aspects of the divorce process. She feels strongly about the benefits of resolving conflict without litigation. She believes that bridging understanding during conflict is an important step in the individual and collective healing process. Hayden is excited about any opportunity to support great organizations to function at their highest capacity.

BOARD MEMBER

Carsten Pöschl, SAP’s Global Ombudsperson, and his team are the first port of call for the company’s 100,000 employees when it comes to the confidential handling of work-related complaints and conflict situations. Before he became Global Ombudsperson, Carsten spent several years at SAP working in strategic HR roles and, before that, led international teams in the areas of Sales and Consulting. Carsten Pöschl is a qualified conflict resolution expert, mediator, coach, and mindfulness trainer with more than 15 years of management experience. His original studies include degrees in Industrial Engineering and Business Administration from the Technical University of Darmstadt, Germany, the Royal Institute of Technology and the Stockholm School of Economics in Stockholm, Sweden.

INCOMING

BOARD MEMBER

Barbara Rothberg is a family and couple therapist, mediator and parent coordinator.  She has been in private practice for 40 years, completing mediation training in 2007. She has additional training in elder mediation and child inclusive mediation. She has taught  graduate couple therapy courses at both NYU and Hunter Schools of Social Work for 20 years and has lead numerous seminars and workshops on couple, family therapy and LGBT issues at conferences throughout the years. Barbara is a member of NYACP, NYSCDM, AFCC and FDMC where she is a Board member. She is also on the Advisory Boards of FamilyKind and The Gender Project at Ackerman Institute. She aims to help couples resolve their relationships with dignity, in whatever from that takes.

BOARD MEMBER

Melanie Rowen is a mediator and conflict coach who believes in the power of understanding-based conflict resolution to transform our world. She frequently trains individuals and groups on effective communication in conflict situations and on creating inclusive environments, particularly around gender, sexual orientation, and disability. Melanie previously litigated civil rights cases, including marriage equality, employment discrimination, issues involving transgender and gender non-conforming youth and their families, and issues facing LGBTQ+ elders, at the National Center for Lesbian Rights, and served on the Board of Directors of the Transgender Law Center. Earlier in her career, she worked in business litigation at Latham & Watkins LLP, and for many years, she was the Associate Director for Public Interest Programs at UC Berkeley School of Law. Melanie currently works in attorney professional development at the Bay Area offices of a large law firm, and is a member of the Board of Directors for the National Association for Law Placement.

INCOMING

BOARD MEMBER

Earl Simms is the co-founder and Executive Director of Restorative Community Solutions. He is a Certified Community Care Coach and Mediator with 10 years experience in direct service, nonprofit leadership and policy advocacy in the area of criminal justice reform and alternatives to incarceration. Earl was a member of the Safety and Justice Challenge through the MacArthur Foundation. He currently consults with San Francisco’s Department of Homelessness and Supportive Housing where he leads the Just Home initiative, focused on finding alternatives to incarceration, reducing the jail population and reducing disparities in the system.

INCOMING

BOARD MEMBER

Lisa Taubenblat is a psychotherapist in private practice in New York City. She focuses on supporting couples and adult family members in resolving conflict and strengthening connection. This family dynamic lens informs her role as a divorce and family mediator. She has worked for over 20 years in community mental health clinics serving low-income populations, including seniors, immigrants, and LGBTQ+ individuals. She has a background in non-profit and foundation settings in the areas of education and public health. She is an active member of the Women’s Mental Health Consortium, the NYS Society for Clinical Social Work, and the Academy of Professional Family Mediators. Lisa has an MSW from NYU Silver School of Social Work and training from Ackerman Institute for the Family.